There’s something we take for granted every day, and which determines, without fail, how our day turns out. It’s mostly invisible to us, yet it’s the thing that explains why we have “good days” and “bad days” and everything in between.
We try to convince ourselves with affirmations in the mirror of how confident we are (while the little voice in our head shrieks BS in the background) or we try to look on the bright side of something that seems to us to be truly upsetting.
We are conditioned to believe that the circumstances of our life are what cause our stress and distress. Here's what's really going on.
I was having a conversation with an HR leader friend of mine the other day, where we discussed the idea of ‘authentic leadership’ and the amount of money that is spent on trying to ‘develop’ authenticity. It seemed strange to both of us, and here’s why we thought so...
I’ve been seeing quite a few blog posts or articles lately in my social media feeds, offering advice about what to say to someone who is in mental distress of some sort. I’d like to stick my neck out here, and explain, as best I can, why these articles are misleading, and why, whether I’m in a coaching conversation or just chatting with a friend, it would make no sense to me to tell someone what to say or do.
Most would say they can't predict the future. So why do we all behave as if we can?
We've bought in to the belief that we need motivation, self-belief, confidence or other tricks of the mind in order to get anything done in the world. That misunderstanding holds us back, and seeing the truth is what allows us to perform and achieve much more than we thought possible.
If you're relying on willpower to stop a habit, you're barking up the wrong tree, because there's no such thing.
We're taught that change is a process, with stages and an end point. But what if change is in fact, a moment?